About Carmen
My core values include...
Creating an environment of safety and respect through unconditional love
Deepening our relationships to ourselves and others through creativity
Uplifting and supporting one another through the power of community
And taking time to celebrate, play and bask in the depth of our deepest pleasure
I grew up deeply connected to play. Joy, imagination, movement, laughter — these were natural to me. But when I started to have sex, that creativity didn’t feel like it belonged. What I absorbed as a young woman was performance — how to please, how to be chosen, how to satisfy. My body became something to offer, not something to inhabit.
In my early twenties, I began a spiritual path through yoga and meditation. During my first 10-day silent Vipassana retreat, I discovered something startling: when I tried to scan my body, my awareness felt outside of it — as if I wasn’t fully inside myself. Over those ten days, I slowly cultivated sensation from within. It was powerful, intimate, and unfamiliar. I realized I had spent years disconnected from my own embodied experience.
As I continued studying movement, meditation, and eventually Tantra, I began to reclaim sexuality as sacred — not serious, not performative, but alive. Healing surfaced. So did power. At first I believed this path would be solemn and intense. What surprised me most was that the deepest liberation came through play.
Today, my work is devoted to helping women, men and couples move from performance into presence. To choose rather than wait to be chosen. To experience intimacy as mutual, embodied, and conscious. I believe eros — our erotic life force — is not separate from how we lead, create, or claim what we desire in the world.
My mission is simple: to create containers of integrity, safety, and depth where you reconnect to your body, your power, and your capacity for real intimacy. Where life becomes less about proving — and more about playing.
Credentials
student of VITA™ Sex, Love & Relationship Coaching
Registered Massage Therapist
200hr Yoga Alliance Certified Yoga Teacher
Reiki Level 1 & 2
BA Geography, UBCO